Day 12: a love note
It all starts with kindness. Everything I have learnt, everyone I have interviewed, every word I have studied has guided me to this simple but profound conclusion: true happiness begins and ends with self-kindness.
No more guilt. No more shoulds. No more comparison.
And the very best way to give your weary soul some kindness at the end of this year? A love note.
Write a letter from you to you… filled with forgiveness, love, and a big bear hug.
I wish I could go back and change things for you. Not everything, just the shitty, unpleasant stuff that made you doubt yourself all these years. I wish I could give you insight to what you know now that you did not know then. I wish you had had the confidence and the realization that you are enough — that it’s okay to like yourself just the way you are and you don’t have to try to be anything or anyone other than you for anyone else.
I wish I could have muted your father when he cut you down and said all those awful things he said to you years ago that made you think you were less than. That was and is on him. Not you. He is the one with the problem. You are more than that. You are beautiful. You are intelligent. You are fantastic just the way you are. The hell with him. You are so much better off without him in your life.
You have come so far these last few years – especially this year. You are alive again. You are reaching beyond yourself and not closing others off. You are allowing yourself to breathe and to understand and know your own mind! Those dreadful echoes of your father are gone. And although he still tries to claw at you from afar, he no longer holds any power or sway over you.
You have just come to the realization lately that you like yourself just the way you are. That was a HUGE thing for you. You asked yourself one day, “What if I liked myself just as I am?” It was a profound thought for you! You needed to get to that point – finally after all these years! I’m proud of you. Keep it up. Keep striving and pushing. Acknowledge your strengths. Live and be you as only you can be.
Much love and hugs,
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