Thursday, February 10, 2011
Do you work too much?
Do I work too much? Well, frankly, I work all the time. I might not work outside the home, but as a mother to a very active three-year-old, my work is 24/7. There are no sick days, no overtime. It is constant yes, but also and more importantly, it is constantly rewarding.
I so despise the term, “working mom”. What it suggests is that those of us who choose to stay home with our children, are not working. It conjures images of us sitting around watching television and popping bon-bons as we lounge about in pink furry slippers and our robes.
That really, really grates on me.
We don’t have what some might consider the luxury of staying out as long as we want, dropping things at a moment’s notice to do whatever we like. We have others to consider. We wash the clothes, clean the house, buy the groceries, cook the food, feed the horde, play with the children, read to them, teach them, change the diapers, bathe the kids, put them to bed, care for them and clean up after them when they are sick, take them to doctor’s appointments, school activities, etc… It is on-going and cyclical in nature. And yet, we seldom if ever complain because it is a labor of love.
We, as moms and dads who stay home, grandparents and caregivers in general have a very important job. We hold the future of this world in our hands. Isn’t that a wonderful task? Yes, it can be daunting at times, but it’s wonderful nonetheless! What could be more important than seeing to the care and nurturing of our children? I guess I have a difficult time with those who just slough it off as a side consideration. I’m not speaking to those who must work because they have no other alternative. I just grow weary of those who would dismiss the fact that stay-at-home-moms ARE working mothers – every single second of every single day and night.
I know what it is to have ambition. I know that I would love for my freelance business to be more lucrative right now, but not at the expense of my child. There will be plenty of time to focus on that when she is in school. But for me, family must allows come first.