December 15 – 5 Minutes
Imagine you will completely lose your memory of 2010 in five minutes. Set an alarm for five minutes and capture the things you most want to remember about 2010.
(Author: Patti Digh)
2010 was a year of mountain top highs and valley bottom lows. It would be fickle to remember only the good things that have transpired because without the bad or the not-so-good, how would you grow and evolve? You can’t.
I have just five minutes to make a memory of all 2010 has been for you.
You suffered some losses this year. Your recently mended relationship with your father crashed and burned yet again as his true self came out of hiding and reared its ugly head.
HE did that to himself. You are not to blame.
You lost an important friendship and it still hurts-focus on the good times you had with that person and leave it at that.
The worse blow came when Jess’ Grandpa died in June after an illness-remember all the happy times with him – that devilish little twinkle in his eyes, his contagious chuckle, his red suspenders you used to gently snap and his love of bluegrass. Never forget how much he loved you or you him. Celebrate his life.
2010 was the year you really started contemplating YOU.
It started with Julia Child’s book, “My Life in France.” She wrote, “I was thirty-seven years old and still discovering who I was.” It resonated with you because you were 37 when you read that and suddenly didn’t feel so alone in that question. You didn’t have to feel guilty for having these questions about your life at this age. It was liberating.
The next book was by Sir Ken Robinson, “The Element”. You had a major epiphany with one simple sentence that he wrote, “If you’re not prepared to be wrong, you’ll never come up with anything original.” (-Sir Ken Robinson)
You read that one line and the shackles fell away, vision cleared, suddenly it all made sense. It doesn’t define you but it explains a lot. Don’t be afraid to mess up. The mess is in the living.
You also discovered a book called “Life is a Verb” by Patti Digh. Something she wrote, just two simple words, “Become you” hit you like a blessed, refreshing wind on a hot, muggy day. You started questioning who you really are and who you want to be and become. You realized that YOU hold that power within. It cuts straight to the heart of the matter that you need to become YOU, not anyone else’s version of you but YOUR own unique version of who you are. You are still working on that. Never stop. NEVER.
Most importantly remember to love yourself and not be ashamed to love yourself. You are not to blame for all the problems in the world, for all the pain, for all the hurting. Love yourself, love others as you love yourself and remember to just be YOU.