So Much Going On These Days!

2015 was supposed to be different in that I was supposed to be writing more and blogging more. Ha! That has not been the case! I’ve been busy, to be sure. And here we are – at the tail end of May with June knocking on the door. Half the year is nearly over!

A lot has been going on in my life. I’ve had to set aside my writing to work on political things as my involvement has increased. I really thought the door had closed on that part of my life but something keeps pulling me back in – an invisible magnetic force – if you will. It’s definitely in my blood.

And involved I am! We just attended the Republican Party of Wisconsin State Convention last weekend. What a fun time it was! Saw so many old friends I had not seen in a long while. I came away invigorated and ready to get to work. It was a very positive environment. No nastiness or negativity or ripping on others across the aisle. It was all about moving forward and what we can do to make things better. We need more of that.

2016 is going to be crazy as it is a MAJOR election year. I’m not looking forward to the negative campaigning that will inevitably take place. But I am looking forward to doing what I can to help elect a good candidate to office. We aren’t always going to agree on who that person is. We aren’t going to always like the choices that are made. But one of the great things about this country is that we have the ability to make our voices and opinions heard.

My daughter has only two weeks of 1st grade left and then she will be a 2nd grader. Wasn’t it just yesterday I was sharing my apprehension over her first day of Kindergarten? Wasn’t it just yesterday I was changing her diapers? Where is the time going?

I hope this finds you all healthy and happy. I hope you have a fantastic Memorial Day weekend!

 

 


Spring. Finally.

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The birds are singing. The sun is shining and the sky is a blue, cloudless delight.
Spring is here, finally.

I love Autumn and Winter. But this year – with me being sick so much of it, I admit I have been looking forward to Spring more than normal.

I get such a pleasure of sitting out on the deck in the late afternoon sun, enjoying the breeze as it runs its fingers over and through the wind chimes.

Life has been busier lately. So this quiet time is just what I need.

I hope it will spur me to write more, read more – both things I have been sorely neglecting. It seems I am a broken record when it comes to that, doesn’t it?

Here’s to Spring, to the growing season, sun-kissed skies and fun.


#cultivate15 – Maps – Day Sixteen

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Map: Imagine a map existed, guiding you towards your dreams. Try to envision the route. How are you going to map out your dreams for 2015?

I’m not sure I want a map.

In the past, when I’ve tried to lay out my course – it’s only made things more complicated and disappointing.

I think it is good to have goals and plans but I’ve always been such a control freak over things that I think it is time I just let go and do my best to enact the things I want.

I’m going to keep it simple this time around and just see where the current takes me.

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#cultivate15 – Follow Your Heart – Day Fifteen

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Follow Your Heart: Did you follow your heart last year? Where will you follow your heart to in 2015?

I think I did – in large part. I tried to. Mostly it was a year of getting back in the saddle – getting involved and moving out of stagnancy. I came alive.

This year, I plan to continue that. My biggest thing is I want to be outside more. I want to do more and live more and finish things. I want adventure and happy excitement. That is what I am striving for.

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#cultivate15 – Friends – Day Eleven

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Friends: We need people who nurture us. Friends provide care, support, encouragement, and enjoyment. Are you treating your friends in a nurturing, supportive manner? How can you cultivate the friendships you hold dear?

I love my friends and I try to be a good support to them. I don’t always manage to be the best at that as sometimes life just gets to be too much and I get sidetracked. The last several years were rough personally so I sort of shut myself off from everyone outside my home. Last year, that changed and I started making more friends and reaching out more.

My online friends have been incredibly supportive and I appreciate them so very much. I hold them dear.

I am blessed, especially when it comes to my friends.

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#cultivate15 – Children – Day 10

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Children: Perhaps you’re a parent. Perhaps you’re an aunt or uncle. Perhaps you just associate with people who have kids of their own. Regardless of how you’re related, the way we interact with the children in our lives makes a significant impact on their lives. Are you setting a good example? How can you nurture the next generation?

I think we are setting a good example. We try to. We do the best we can. We only have one child so our attention is centered around her. She goes with us pretty much everywhere. We discuss things, we listen, we show her everything we can and include her in conversations about various subjects. We try to expose her to as much diversity and knowledge as possible.

We hear from teachers and other parents and friends what a happy, caring, polite girl she is and it makes us incredibly proud. She has the biggest heart and looks out for others. Her thirst for knowledge is so fun to watch! I think we are on the right path. Is she perfect? No. Who is? I know I’m not!

I love this little girl who brightens this world so very much.

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#cultivate15 – Significant Others – Day Nine

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Significant Others: When we choose to become romantically involved with someone, we’re opening ourselves to a very deep relationship. How can you nurture a healthy, loving relationship with your partner? If you’re not romantically involved with someone, you may choose to evaluate former relationships to identify ways in which you’d like to nurture future relationships.

One of the things my husband and I do – or try to do – is check in with each other. We probably don’t do it as often as we did in the early years of our marriage but we do maintain a good line of communication between us. I think that is key – in any relationship.

Also, a good sense of humor. We make each other laugh. To me, the ability to make fun of oneself or look silly and not “mind” is extremely important. It was one of the things about my husband that made me realize he was the one I would marry. A person who does not take themselves too seriously is a person who can handle almost anything.

We have a lot of the same interests and we genuinely enjoy being with each other. He – aside from my mom – is my best friend. We look after each other. There are days when I am up and he is down or vice versa. That is when we bolster each other even more. It’s a true relationship of give and take. That’s not to say we don’t have our disagreements or days where we get frustrated with each other but those are very far and few between.

The most important thing in a healthy relationship though, is communication, communication, communication. :)

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#cultivate15 – Parents – Day Eight

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Parents: Whether they’re still alive or long since passed, biological or adopted, our parents were the first people to teach us about relationships. How can you cultivate a stronger, healthier relationship with them? How can you reconcile your past with your present and future?

This is a complicated question for me in some respects.

My mom is my best friend – aside from my husband.

She and I have always been close. I know without a shadow of a doubt that she loves me with all of her being and that she has always been there for me and will always be there for me. She has been my role model, my inspiration, my rock, my biggest fan, my everything throughout my life. I could not ask for a better mother.

My father, on the other hand, is “dead” to me. He is a bastard and I hope I never see him again. Our story is the complicated part of this question because of who he is and what he has done to our family and to me. The whole idea that blood is thicker than water is hogwash. So I do not intend to ever cultivate a relationship with him ever again.

Reconciling my past and with my present and future is and was cutting him out of my life for good.

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#cultivate15 – Appreciate – Day Seven

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Appreciate: Cultivate isn’t about being in a constant state of happiness — it’s about practicing happiness, much like you’d practice a sport or musical instrument. How can you infuse more appreciation for the people, places, and things that bring you joy?

By acknowledging those people, places and things.

By giving thanks for having them in your life.

By giving back.

By letting them know what they mean to you.

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#cultivate15 – What Matters Right Now – Day Six

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What Matters Now: Cultivate is about living in the here and now. What matters most to you right now? How are you going to nurture what matters during 2015?

Living in the moment.

Expecting nothing but receiving wholly.

Savoring the little things and allowing those moments to fully sink in without rushing on to the next thing.

Experiencing life as best I can.

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#cultivate15 – Healing – Day Five

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Healing: The Cultivate project is all about healing yourself. How might you heal yourself, your relationships, and/ or your community this year?

I don’t feel like I have a lot of healing -overall- to do this year. Last year was really the time for that. This year is more about transformation for me.

That said, there is a friendship I have to think about. I’m disappointed and hurt and trying to “get over it” and just move on. Easier said than done. I have to find a way to not be disappointed by people. That’s the hard part – letting go of expectations. Funny thing is, I don’t really have any expectations of friends other than just be my friend, take me as I am and be understanding as I am with you. It’s hard to believe that is too much to ask of anyone and yet…

So I shrug my shoulders, move and and realize it is their loss. Not mine.

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#cultivate15 – Health – Day Four

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Health: How did you treat your body last year? You only get this one vessel one time around. In what ways can you cultivate better health for your body this year?

I think I listened more to my body. I moved more. I worked on nourishing myself more.

I fed myself after depleting my system too much the year before. In 2013, I was at a point where my body was in desperate need of replenishment. So 2014 was about just that – replenishing it with nutrients.

This year is about taking it a step further and being more mindful of my choices and eating to live – eating to nourish and savoring that which I feed myself. The older I get the more I appreciate this body and what it can do. So now, rather than criticize it, I honor it.

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#cultivate15 – Let Go of Old Frames – Day Three

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Evaluation & Cultivating Self-Care:

Let go of old frames: How are you framing yourself, your relationships, your community, and your dreams? Could you reframe these as begin 2015? What do you need to let go of to cultivate your best life in 2015?

I’m getting involved more than I have in the past. Last year I joined a fundraising committee at my daughter’s school that I really enjoy being a part of.

I was also involved in county party politics (again) as it was an election year but really, I don’t care to be a part of that any longer. It’s not fun anymore. Rather, it has become far dirtier and more rotten than ever. Too many of the people involved are toxic. I don’t want anything to do with it aside from helping my mom out where she needs it. The sooner I can untangle myself from the political involvements I have, the better.

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#cultivate15 – Evaluation & Cultivating Self-Care – Day Two

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Evaluation & Cultivating Self-Care:

Reflection: What did you set out to accomplish last year? What have you done to cultivate your goals and your life? Did your intentions manifest during the year?

Last year it was about consistency and living fully. I did a fairly good job with this. I didn’t really set any goals for myself. Sometimes I wonder if goals are truly necessary. Sometimes I think they get in the way of true progress. I am happy with 2014 and feel I did the best I could. Compared to the previous couple years, 2014 was me kicking down a wall that had been in my way for far too long. ###

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#cultivate15 – Reflection – Day One

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Evaluation & Cultivating Self-Care:

Reflection: What did you set out to accomplish last year? What have you done to cultivate your goals and your life? Did your intentions manifest during the year?

My word

Consistency

Last year, my word was consistency. My goal was to maintain a level of consistency in everything I do rather than flit about from one thing to another.

I did fairly well for the most part, the first half of the year – especially with my kettlebell training. Then mid-summer, things started to get hectic as I helped my mom with her political party stuff up north (also it was an election year) and I helped out at their county fair booth.

Then it was the start of the school year and as I am on one of the fundraising committees and our big event is in November, my days and weeks were consumed with preparations for the event. My personal stuff fell to the side, my workouts were hard to keep up and when I did get home from working on things, I was beat.

By the time the elections were over and the fundraising event had been held, my health was on a downward spiral and I was sick for about a month and a half afterwards. I was diagnosed with pneumonia just before Christmas and promptly put on antibiotics.

I’m working on building my energy back up and this Monday, I will resume my kettlebell training and slowly build my strength back.  I am looking forward to this. It has been too long.

2014 was a terrific year for me though. I got out more. I did more. I felt more alive than I have in a long time and it was so good! I’m taking this with me into 2015 and looking forward to being more active, more consistent and more “alive” than ever. :)

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Tough Realizations

Every once in a while, in the midst of hurt and sadness emerges an understanding about the situation that helps to clarify things and put it all into perspective. It does not exactly alleviate the pain but it is a source of comfort.

I’ve always been sort of a loner. I have a lot of friends but not one best friend.  I never have. I was always the token friend – the one kept at the perimeter until needed, kind of like the pack of tissues one carries around in case they need it. It’s not a bad thing. I learned to accept it a long time ago. My mom is the same way. We are the ones who patch things up when other friends fight. We are the ones who are there to listen and lend a hand if need be. But we aren’t the first people go to unless they need something from us. We are often overlooked and taken for granted. It’s just the way it  is. If you are the yes person – life is grand. You are loved! All is swell until you have to say no or can’t do something as planned. Then, you are dropped like a hot potato. So much for understanding, right?

Sometimes it isn’t the most wonderful position in which to be. Sometimes it downright sucks. It can be lonely and frustrating.

A recent situation is making me question a friendship and whether I care to continue with it or just walk away. Part of me thinks, the hell with them, I don’t need this. The other part of me says, it’s just the way things are. They aren’t exactly toxic, they are just lacking in the basic manners and social proprieties I was brought up with. This is who they are and they won’t change. Obviously they need to feel important and special or they would not feel threatened and act as they are acting.

What I realized here thought, is that people like my mom and I are the ones who are tough enough to handle it. We are the ones who can take it and not be broken by it. People have dumped their crap on us time and time again but we survive. We deal with it and move on. It doesn’t mean we aren’t hurt because after all, we are human. But it does mean we can handle situations that would be far more difficult on others. We stew for a moment and then we take a deep breath and go about our day focusing on things that are far more important. I would much rather be on the periphery – right where I am.

I know I am loved. I know that I love. I also know who I am and that makes me happy.